Insiders Guide to the BDSM Community

BDSM is by far the most complex and therefore requires a deeper level of consideration & discussion. So with that in mind, I would ask, what does it mean to submit to another?
When you close your eyes and the fantasy takes center stage, what comes to mind?
There is a very fine fabric made into a body suit, and when worn it feels as though you are completely naked wearing nothing at all. Imagine being led out to spend countless hours in public with the feeling of being so totally exposed. Imagine being in a crowded club while your body brushes against so many others, as if each was pressing against your bare skin. Imagine your partner watching, knowing that your uncomfortable excitement brings them absolute delight.
- To some, this is an act of submission.
Imagine perhaps being shaved bare, and then asked to go out in a very short skirt, but also made to wear no underwear of any type; to be felt & caressed when no one would look and see. Imagine going to a fine restaurant and just before you enter your partner has you wear a g-string that fits snug to your body. Enmeshed in your garment is a very quiet but fairly powerful vibrator. As each course is brought, you discuss the evening’s plans and the erotic scene that awaits you. During each moment your partner holds a remote that engages the vibrator you’re wearing. In the middle of a restaurant during a wonderful dinner, deep and firm pulsations send shivers of want and desire throughout your body. How erotic would all this make you feel?  How much of a woman in the fullness of her sexual power would this make you become?
Perhaps you then go to a high end strip club where your partner has arranged for you to “audition” and are required to dance completely nude before everyone (all staring with eyes of lustful desire), he or she most of all…
- To some, this is to submit oneself fully.
Imagine being blind folded and tied, then made to spread fully. You must be made to understand what it is to truly give yourself to another. First the feel of a light feather caresses the whole of your body. Slowly, gently, with wisps of little kisses on your most sensitive areas. You grow eager with anticipation as hands then gently caress over your skin. But soon a firm hand spanks down upon you. You then feel a firm slap on your thighs and again on your hind. In time you grow red and begin to squirm. Soon the bite of a flogger whips across your back and then again and again upon your ass. You jump with each lash, but then sweet hands gently massage the pain away. Again a slap but this time a gentle touch begins to explore the sensitivity of your thighs. You grow hot and soon feel as if you may cum. But then it all stops and you are left wanting – holding a deep yet unsatisfied desire for more. As you are then untied, you are placed in a chair as the blindfold is taken off. Only then do you realize another couple had been watching all along. They are asked to have sex for both of you to watch, and as your voyeuristic desires are given great enticement you are then made to masturbate, but again you are not allowed to cum. In time, while you and your partner both look on, the couple convulse in an erotic dance of desire fulfilled. You feel your body wanting and soon are explored by your own partner until it becomes just too much. Keeping you on the verge of orgasm you start to beg for more; you promise to be good and never hold any part of yourself back if only you would be allowed to finally explode. “Yes” is heard, and with all eyes upon you the screaming desire allows you to explode harder than ever before…
- To many, this would be an act of true submission.
In essence, the act of D&S is to simply give oneself over to the desires held by another. But in truth, anyone can wield a whip or spank their partner. An artful tease can bring deep pulsations of lustful desire to every nerve you carry. And yet, so many focus only on the physical. But in reality, the most erogenous zone of the body is truly the mind.
All too often it seems as though few really hold an understanding to really explore this realm of desire to its full extent – to thus explore one’s deeper sense of erotic passion & fantasy. And yet, to do so is to not only explore desire, but also one’s self as well…
Source: http://understandingbdsm.blogspot.ca/